After the question is popped, all you hear is “when is the big day?”
But, do you have to set a wedding date right away? It seems these days couples are quick to set the date and start planning the wedding. Some feel that if the engagement is too long, it may be confused for hesitation.
A long engagement isn’t a bad thing. In fact, it could be a great thing for your marriage. So, if you are feeling rushed or think a long engagement is a bad thing, here are a few reasons you will want to reconsider.
Now You Can Enjoy Being Engaged
Couples that rush off to wedding planning never truly experience the “engagement” period. Instead, they go from being engaged to planning a wedding -leaving little time to enjoy your engagement. Even if you are freshly engaged, you’ll feel a lot of pressure from family and friends to set a date and get it over with, but don’t. Instead, take some time to enjoy this critical period in your relationship. After all, an engagement is a big step in a relationship – and it is the staging period for an even bigger step.
Use your long engagement to talk about what you want with the wedding – without actually planning. Talk about your future together and what you see. You could use this time to iron out any disagreements long before the stress of wedding planning comes around.
You’ll Have Access to the Best of the Best
When you do start planning – give yourself extra time. With a long engagement, you can slowly plan your wedding over one, two or even three years. The good news about taking your time is you’ll have access to all of the best suppliers – because it is unlikely they are booked two years out.
You Have Time to Save for What You Really Want
When you rush, you often have to sacrifice. But, with a long engagement you don’t have to sacrifice anything. Instead, you can save money for that dress you really want, save for the ideal wedding venue or even for the catering company. You can still put deposits down to secure your suppliers, then enjoy a two year saving period.
Time to Learn
Rushed weddings have a lot of regrets. But, with a long engagement you have time to think about what you really want at your wedding and learn what you don’t want.
Wedding Planning Stress Doesn’t Take a Toll
Couples that do not have long engagements can feel the stress of wedding planning and it sure takes its toll on the couple. With a long engagement, you are not rushed or stressed – so your relationship doesn’t have to deal with the usual stress and strain.
While you may think a long engagement is a bad thing, there are a lot of positives to being patient and just waiting. Even if you don’t want to wait two years, giving yourself a year could make a difference.