You have spent countless hours planning, day dreaming, creating, crafting, and even swooning over your special day. You are about to marry the person of your dreams and you are more than just excited – you are bouncing off the walls.
Most couples are like this pre-wedding day. But, sadly, most couples never get to fully enjoy the wedding. From all of the anticipation and stress buildup (and lack of sleep), couples tend to find their wedding day exhausting and even stressful.
You are spending the majority of your time planning the perfect wedding right now, so make sure you you actually enjoy the day you have spent time, money and sanity planning.
The Reason Most Couples Never Enjoy Wedding Day
Wedding planning is inherently crazy – no one will deny that. You have to work out every detail from the date to guest list to coordinating multiple vendors and sticking within a budget. You want everything perfect, yet you are stressed that all of your planning will go to waste on the big day. No bride or groom wants a disastrous wedding day, so often the fear of that happening consumes the couple.
In an ideal world, weddings will go 100 percent as planned. But, in reality, every single wedding has a hiccup – including those that are planned by the best, most expensive wedding planners. That is because there is no such thing as a perfect wedding day – after all, you cannot control a dozen people. One of your vendors may be a few minutes late, the weather could change a few days prior to the event, etc. Not everything is nor will it be in your control – but that is OK.
How to Ensure You Enjoy Your Wedding Day
Despite the fact you are not in control, there is plenty you can do to ensure you enjoy your special day and ensure it stays your special moment. These tips can keep you calm, and hopefully, help remind you what your wedding day is all about.
Make Sure You Wake Up Refreshed
Go to bed at a reasonable hour the night before your wedding. While that may be hard with any last minute planning, still aim for at least six to eight hours of sleep. That might mean having the bachelorette party the week before the wedding – so you aren’t up at all hours of the night. Being refreshed and well-rested will help you remain calm at the wedding too.
Remember the Wedding is Not All About You
While it is your wedding and no one will deny you that, if you start thinking the wedding is all about you, you may turn out to be one of those crazy wedding divas that spend more time complaining and yelling than enjoying their wedding. The truth is, the wedding is not just about you and you are not the only person there to enjoy it. You have a spouse, you have family, and other people who are there to share and enjoy the moment just like you are. There are plenty of people who are invested in the relationship just like you – and people who have been looking forward to wedding day just as much.
Limit How Many To-Dos You Have on Wedding Day
What does your to-do list look like for wedding day? If you have a bunch of tasks on your list, consider narrowing them down and leave your wedding day open. There is no need to wake up and rush off to errands. Instead, enjoy a morning of relaxation. The less you have to do on the actual day – the more relaxing and breathing time you have. Also, consider doing something for yourself on wedding day – such as going to the spa for a bridal massage and pedicure or even taking a morning yoga class.
Do Not Forget to Eat and Keep Hydrated
You are busy on wedding day, but make sure you eat a good, solid breakfast (preferably one that has protein in it) and drink plenty of fluids. Being hungry and/or dehydrated on wedding day is no way to start off that special moment. If you do not eat or drink, you may be too weak to enjoy your wedding or worse, have a killer migraine that will ruin your wedding altogether.
Just Trust the Vendors You Hired
You spent time reviewing and interviewing and assessing each vendor. Now is the time to trust in your judgement. You hire those professionals for your wedding and they have done countless numbers of weddings before yours – they know what they are doing. Trust that they will get the job done and do not sit there worrying about your vendors’ every move. If you hired an event planner, let them worry about the vendors while you enjoy your wedding day – that is, after all, what you paid them for.
Celebrate With Everyone
Some couples seem to forget that their wedding is a celebration. If you are having a wedding, you should be there celebrating with your guests. Get out on the dance floor and have some fun – and don’t just dance during the usual ones. Mingle with your guests, have a chat with everyone that came to your wedding and thank them. Just let loose and enjoy the event – you’ve earned it. Do not sit there fretting about the cake cutting being five minutes late, do not check your phone every minute to see if a vendor is running behind and definitely do not worry about the drunk guests – they are only embarrassing themselves, not ruining your wedding.
Your wedding can be as exciting as you want it to be, as long as you remember what is most important. You are there to marry the person you love and celebrate that love. Everything else is just filler.
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